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ÆSTHETIC CULTURE   In venturing to discuss the means of æsthetic culture, I feel that to formulate canons of taste is the same sort of thing as to draw up rules of conscience; that is, to attempt to do for other people what every one must do for himself. It may be vicious to have a flower pattern on our carpet, and correct to have … Continue reading Formation of Character Volume 5 Pt 3. Chapter 1 (17)

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TABLE-TALK             The character of the family reading will affect that of the talk; but considering how little parents see of young people once entered on their school career, it is worth while to say a few words of the table-talk which affords parents their best opportunity of influencing the opinions of the young. Every one is agreed that animated table-talk is a condition … Continue reading Formation of Character Volume 5 Pt 3. Chapter 1

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POETRY AS A MEANS OF CULTURE             Poetry takes first rank as a means of intellectual culture. Goethe tells us that we ought to see a good picture, hear good music, and read some good poetry every day; and, certainly, a little poetry should form part of the evening lecture. “Collections” of poems are to be eschewed; but some one poet should have at … Continue reading Formation of Character Volume 5 Pt 3. Chapter 1 (15)

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THE BOOK FOR THE EVENING LECTURE             To attempt a list of books suitable for the family lecture would be as hopeless as it is unnecessary; but it is possible to discuss the principles on which the selection should be made. In the first place, to get information is not the object of the family reading, but to make the young people acquainted with … Continue reading Formation of Character Volume 5 Pt 3. Chapter 1 (14)

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READING ALOUD             There is little opportunity to give intellectual culture to the boy taken up with his school and its interests; the more reason, therefore, to make the most of that little; for when the boy leaves school, he is in a measure set; his thoughts will not readily run in the new channels. The business of the parent is to keep open … Continue reading Formation of Character Volume 5 Pt 3. Chapter 1 (13)

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LETTER-WRITING   Is it true that the charming art of letter-writing has gone out with the introduction of the halfpenny postcard? “There is a great deal to be said on both sides” would, doubtless, be Sir Roger de Coverley’s decision; anyway, if we do not write letters, the useful little postcard is not to blame. But, do we not? Have we not all correspondents whose … Continue reading Formation of Character Volume 5 Pt 3. Chapter 1 (12)

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HOME CULTURE—BOOKS             Although any attempt at intellectual training must be abandoned by the parents when once their children have gone to school, intellectual culture is a different matter, and this the young people must get at home, or nowhere. By this sort of culture I mean, not so much the getting of knowledge, nor even getting the power to learn, but the cultivation … Continue reading Formation of Character Volume 5 Pt 3. Chapter 1 (11)

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HOME TRAINING—RELIGIOUS             With regard to the training of the young in the religious life, I am chiefly anxious to call the reader’s attention to the power and beauty of a holy youth. We are content, in this matter, with too low a standard for the children as for ourselves, looking for less than that which many a beautiful child attains in his degree—a … Continue reading Formation of Character Volume 5 Pt 3. Chapter 1 (10)

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THE AWKWARD AGE             Indeed, this, of the growing boy or girl, is not only an awkward, but a critical stage of life. For the first time, the young people are greatly occupied with the notion of their own rights: their duties are nowhere. Not what they own, but what is due to them, it is, that oppresses their minds. “It’s a shame,” “It’s … Continue reading Formation of Character Volume 5 Pt 3. Chapter 1 (9)

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HOME TRAINING—MORAL             (a) Honour towards Parents.—This brings us to the consideration of that education in morals which the young people must get at home, or not at all. The chief of their duties, that which should be kept always before the young, is the duty they owe to their parents: from this stem, all their other duties, to kindred, commonwealth, and neighbours, branch … Continue reading Formation of Character Volume 5 Pt 3. Chapter 1 (8)